I've a question with the fact that I hear individuals, of any race, say issues about how black men like fat white ladies and the way the fats white girls cant get a white man, in order that they turn to a black man. I feel I am usually attracted to, or have dated, different match people because they're concerned in the same sports activities and actions I am involved in. 3. I'm liking this an increasing number of
Sun, Sep 19, 1999 - 3:35 AM/EST
wayne I applaud the courage to ask a query you deem borderline. I have heard this from many people, even earlier than I met my husband......I nonetheless hear it, and do not perceive it. My ideas on the subjects. I have a feeling I'm opening a can of worms with this query, but I have noticed that black males seem to be interested in me, and "heavy-set" ladies. I hope I dont offend anyone, I always wished to ask...... 2. Not offended...
Solar, Sep 19, 1999 - 2:14 AM/EST
noreen Let's try to be honest and open on this group. If the question is sincere, I am not offended. I do have an excellent good friend that I have talks with or see a film with who weighs 400+ pounds. But he could by no means do bicycle touring or hiking like I spend my weekends doing.I've by no means noticed/heard the stereotype that black males favor overweight white girls. My hope is that we will have the courage to ask the uncomfortable questions. I'm a physically fit person. I'm curious to others experiences and emotions on this level. I used to be advised by a member of my household that, sure members of my family suppose that's the reason i married a black man.
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On not realizing about certain points-America is a divided land culturally and i imagine that to be fact(possibly a subject later). This may account for why some individuals are at all times in the clicking. In order a minority culture you need to also be in tune with what the majority is doing. Quite merely we have to know what the majority does to outlive and the majority doesn't necessarily have to know about the other cultural nuances to outlive. All of the opposite cultures have their own identities however all of their identities must enable them to be able to keep a productive relationship with the majority tradition here in America. You've gotten the majority tradition("white") and you additionally produce other cultures including African American tradition. I feel that's why generally minority group members are extra aware of the rumors or extra in tune with what the majority does.
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Sun, Sep 19, 1999 - 3:37 AM/EST
wayne With reference to stunning ladies- I imagine African American tradition allows for many different body ideals for ladies due to its personal treatment throughout time. I consider this manifests itself within the obvious optimistic self image young black girl typically have of themselves it doesn't matter what their physique type. It touched me and allowed me to see that I am lovely no matter whether or not I am a dimension 5 or a measurement 12. In Florida whereas a teenager, I used to be round far more African American people then I am in Nebraska. I do not know why..upbringing, assist of group...however I do know that seeing the women and men behave in far larger acceptance has influenced me. 8. Thanks
Tue, Sep 21, 1999 - 1:53 PM/EST
lmh This is Leslie (lmh) I don't have much to say about this subject so I won't attempt to make one thing come out with meaningfulness. Properly who shapes this purpose? He nonetheless considers me cute and my size was never an issue. 5. Hi Colleen
Sun, Sep 19, 1999 - 3:58 PM/EST
mms In my experience after i first met my now husband I used to be 19, a measurement three and in response to my husband "cute". You see we both found out about each other then we saw what we both appeared like...Considered one of his first issues he mentioned was "I'm black" my reply was "so and I am white, is that an issue".We began off as pals and now that we've got met and he has met my chidren they also Love him..But to my Mother her thing is Black men beat their woman and they love plus measurement woman. And for this I am very thankful. African American culture must teach children at an early age that many alternative options are available than what's conventional or that we view within the media. Why ought to I try for some other very best these same corruptors have set forth? He loved her very much, the problem was that over the years of dating she had placed on quite a bit of weight. The girls I noticed have been self assured, or not less than they mirrored this it appeared to me. As I learn your submit I used to be reminded of a radio speak present I had heard a number of months in the past that hit me in some ways. The present consisted of a white man, a white lady, and a black man. The black man gave an important hearty snort and stated, "All of the extra to love and hold on to!" His response was so trustworthy and it was apparent he was honest.I had all the time been hung up about my dimension, at instances very unhealthy in my self image and thought that as a girl I have to be thin yet curvy to be attractive. Callers wrote in to ask love advice and the three radio personalities responded on air with advice. For one I can never be white so there should be one other lady, a black lady, that may be supreme. After 2 youngsters, 30 years, I'm a plus dimension additionally. They seemed to have a better awareness of who they were and a comfort in their physique form and measurement, their inate magnificence, that I noticed lacking in my self and the white girls I knew. This morning the subject was a letter received by a young male who said he & his girlfriend have been now engaged. The white man's response was 'dump her now', the white lady's response was anger that if he cherished her why does her dimension matter. 6. I bought the identical reaction
Sun, Sep 19, BRUNETTE GILF FAKE TITSWITH HANDYMAN 1999 - 4:06 PM/EST
marian Colleen simply such as you i obtained the identical response from my family. The same theoretical forces that shaped the false notions of African American culture. I have seen nonetheless that even at my heavy factors after having kids, it was typically Hispanic and African American men that may still see my beauty. You fall in love with the person. I feel that some "White" individuals simply do not understand what draws you to someone of another tradition. This plurality permits for a extra broad view of what's acceptable in every little thing, not just stunning girls. In the event you may be improper about me you could be fallacious about other issues. I at all times attempt to clarify it like this, what if we were all born blind, how would you know what shade we have been. However to me its not the coloration of a person however the particular person inside , and that i acquired to know him from the inside first before assembly the outer core. I wish to say thanks very much for "opening a can of worms" because you're serving to us get to real, honest issues which will be laborious! Perhaps their weight need not be a factor of their sexuality or femininity identical to their coloration need not be. I'm additionally a plus dimension and when i first began chatting with my boyfiend(sure i met him on the web),i felt complelled to tell him that i was no Tara Banks, he replied to me that he doesnt care in regards to the physique that i have been put in but the particular person i'm inside. I have seen myself portrayed as a black person and it's not an correct picture. Read extra featured posts right here or continue reading thread 22 from Relationship Group 7. And as i've mentioned to my family, I'm Joyful and so are my kids..And if that is so that black males love plus dimension woman, properly possibly everyone ought to give us an opportunity cause i am not solely coping with the inter-racial thing i am additionally dealing with "Fat persons are lazy and never sexy at all" And Colleen you asked that query earlier than i could and didnt take any offense to it..Thanks 7. Beauty
Mon, Sep 20, 1999 - 9:35 AM/EST
heather Colleen,
I applaude your resolution to talk honestly. We as People are fed this ultimate of a petite white girl as the goal or fruits of femininity. The man acknowledged that he was concerned of her measurement and her weight continueing to extend after marraige.